Introducing You to Yourself

Due to the world we live in, we often feel pressure to try and fit in. We do what the majority is doing so we don't stand out or appear weird. Our style, hobbies and interests, personality and the way we live are based on trends, what’s considered normal, and what people have been conditioned to believe. One of the first few steps on your journey to fulfilling your Universal purpose is to learn who you really are.

Experiment with things, make journaling part of your routine, discover the things you value, find out what your purpose is, don't let the opinions of others influence who you are, and love yourself unconditionally. These are just a few things you can do to introduce you to yourself.

Experiment

Keep experimenting with hobbies, style, music, interests, etc until you find the one that sticks. Don't be afraid to keep looking until you find that thing that sets your soul on fire. Overtime what you like will change and that’s okay, but don't feel like you have to do something or change what you are doing just because it's trendy in society. Things come and go, that’s a fact of life but don't let the pressure of others and popularity change you into something that you were not meant to be in this lifetime.

Write down your thoughts about situations that happen in your life, take notes on what things make you really happy and what things you don't like too much. This can offer a lot of insight into who you really are, eventually you’ll notice a pattern. What has to happen to you for it to be considered a good day and when you have a bad day what were the triggers? Did you have to do something that you didn’t want to do? Did you feel out of place or like something was missing? These can be signs that you’re not living in a way that aligns with your Universal purpose. A few questions you can ask yourself are:

Journal

One of the first few steps on your journey to fulfilling your Universal purpose is to learn who you really are.o? Did you feel out of place or like something was missing? These can be signs that you’re not living in a way that aligns with your Universal purpose. A few questions you can ask yourself are:

What is your biggest dream or goal, why is it worth fighting for, and what can you do to go towards it?

When do you feel most in tune with yourself?

How can you feel fulfilled in your life, what do you need more of in your life, and what activities make you happy?

If you had no fears, no doubts, and no need to please others what would you do?

What are some things that are keeping you from living a life that makes you truly happy?

Write them down in your journal (you can find one of my all-time favorites here) and use it as a guideline to find out who you really are. After a few months answer these questions again, then go back in your journal and compare the answers.

Discovering Your Values

Take note of things in your life that have value and are meaningful. What are some things that you have valued in the past, do you still value those things or do you value something different now?

What do you want for the physical, mental, social, financial, and professional aspects of your life? What did you learn when you were younger and what impact have they had on you? In each area of your life, what is something that you can do daily so you can thrive in that area and feel the best you can be? What are your daily obligations and responsibilities that have to be completed? Do those things align with your core values or does it go against them? Are your core values and needs in alignment with your obligations or are they disconnected? What changes do you need to make so you can attack the disconnects between your core values, obligations, and responsibilities?

Find your purpose

The first step to finding your purpose in life is to find out what the things are that get you motivated. Is there something you do good and you're proud of it, what makes you feel happy, and what is something you dream of doing? What do you believe in, what matters to you, and what motivates you? Look for all the opportunities you have in your life to do these things. Leave room and make time for the things you love so you can achieve your goals and fulfill your purpose.

Here is a worksheet to help you out if you’re not sure where to begin.

Don't worry about how others feel

This is your life, it doesn’t belong to anyone else. There is no reason for you to try and live your life to please others because we were all put here with a purpose that we need to satisfy for our own happiness. Not everyone will like you or the things you do but as long as you like yourself and are living a life that you are proud of everything else will fall into place. You cannot compare yourself, the way you want to live, or the journey with anyone else’s because although they are on a journey, they aren’t taking the same road as you.

Be honest to yourself and tell people how you really feel, let them meet the real you. Not everyone will like the real you but the ones who matter and are meant to accompany you will. If someone wants you to do something that you don't want to or change who you are you’re allowed to say no. It may be hard at first, especially if it's someone you want to make happy, but you can’t compromise yourself to fulfill the needs of someone else. You have needs that must be met and that’s where your focus needs to be. Balance your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual needs so you can be the best you and not get overwhelmed.

I've spent a large portion of my life worrying about the way other people felt about me and trying to please them. I already didn't think I was good enough and I was so desperate to be liked, have someone, and feel like I belonged somewhere I let a lot of things slide. I was weak and got taken advantage of. Now I see what I didn't fit in, I can honestly say I am glad that I was different. It was rough to get where I am now and I still have a lot of growing to do, but I know for a fact that the people I have in my life belong.

Love yourself

Loving yourself is much more important than someone else loving you. It's a strong foundation. If you love and care about yourself you’ll know what you need and you won’t allow anyone to treat you badly or give you less than you deserve. Having everything you need inside yourself keeps you from being dependent. Recognize that you're valuable. Boost your self-esteem so you can unapologetically love yourself. Lift your self up, set boundaries as needed, and have a positive mindset.

Don't encourage unhealthy thinking and talk about yourself. This not only shows others that you feel as if you aren’t worth anything, it also lowers your vibrations and you will attract people who think and feel that way. Have compassion for yourself. Always surround your self with things that are positive, all aspects of your life should be focused on loving who you are, being happy, and fulfilling your purpose. Build up your endurance in order to protect yourself from the influences of society and keep your attention on the areas of your life that honor your gifts.

My self-hate was extreme. I felt like I was worth nothing, like I was a mistake who didn't deserve to be here while good people die, and I wasn't important to anyone. I did everything I could to try to escape from the prison in my mind, it was reckless and I was destructive. I hit rock bottom and I hit it hard. But once I started looking at myself in a better way things changed. Everything wasn't perfect right away but it was one less thing wrong. This is something I am still working on. This book really helped me in my journey of self-love and appreciation. It was a good way for me to get over some things that were holding me back and sent me in the right direction. Get it here.

Due to the world we live in, we often feel pressure to try and fit in. We do what the majority is doing so we don't stand out or appear weird. Our style, hobbies and interests, personality and the way we live are based on trends, what’s considered normal, and what people have been conditioned to believe. One of the first few steps on your journey to fulfilling your Universal purpose is to learn who you really are. Your values will be different, your goals will change, and you’ll put more effort into being the person that you are meant to be in this life.